As I closed my last blog, turned the page, sort of speak….I promised myself I would start another and be more positive. Actually, this is what I wrote: It’s a new era, a new dawn…..nothing dramatic or earthshaking…just life changing!!!”

It took me a while, but here I am. Had to come up with the idea to anchor my blog. The fact is that we have been daughters, wives, mothers, friends, lovers, caregivers. We have done everything required of us and more. We have put our dreams and our goals on hold for family and friends, husbands and lovers, aging parents and demanding children. What have we got in return? Well, some would say we have the satisfaction of having done our duty. Or we should feel at peace with ourselves. All that is good and personally rewarding, but don’t you feel sometimes we deserve better? don’t you feel we have the right to expect some palpable recognition? I do…..Sorry, but we are human and there is nothing wrong with that. I am not going to wait to get it from others, I will make my own reward. So here it is…

Let’s be realistic. In my age group, we have more years behind us that we have in front of us. Unless there is a medical development I do not know of, we are not going to live another 50 or 60 years! Then, we have to put our foot down…we will live the rest of our lives as we want. It will be marvelous! Do what you always wanted to do…why not?

 Go places you wanted to visit, even if it is the museum in the next town…….travel farther if it is possible. Remember when you wanted to take a cruise or walk at night along the Seine, or spend time in a Tuscan town, an English village or a Caribbean beach? Well, do it! why not?

Were you interested in painting, photography or pottery making? Do you think you want to explore your artistic side? Go for it! There are classes and groups and clubs that encourage all those things, right there in your city or town. I have a friend in Maryland who just had her first photography exhibition in Annapolis. So you see….why not?

Do you keep journals? why not publish your memoirs? We all have something to say, share  your experiences.  Do you think you can tell a story? or have you been told you are a storyteller? why not put that in writing? It is so easy nowadays to get your work on the internet. I wrote a book and started a blog at an age when others are thinking of retiring. So, why not?

Have you been called the life of the party? do your friends laugh out loud at your witty comments? Start a blog, share your wit and your humor. Remember, laughter is the best medicine and is side-effect free! Gather your thoughts and start writing! People love to be entertained. So, why not?

Do you love to cook or have a knack for organizing events? are your parties always well attended because nobody wants to miss them? Do your friends ask you for advise when buying clothes? Do you get compliments about your garden or your home? Then consider doing this….a hobby that can bring an income! Besides, if you love it, you’ll be great at it. So, why not?

Now, whatever you decide to do, do with flair, with passion. These are the best years of your life because the only person you have to please now is you! Go out and get the most out of the rest of your life!!! WHY NOT?

 To achieve this, I think I have come up with a formula: TOSS and LISTEN.

TOSS: so important to leave behind anything that will impede progress. Get rid of things that are not useful anymore, be it casseroles or relationships that drag us down.

LISTEN: more important still is to open ourselves up to the new, be it attitudes, opinions or friendships.

This is my why not way and I will share my progress with you. Hope to see you here often and hear from you as well. Let’s Toss and Listen together!!

8 thoughts on “Welcome!!!

  1. Querida Mercedes,

    Love your new project!
    Although I like to think of myself as belonging to the group of women that ‘have about as many years ahead as they have behind’, I can relate completely to the things you mention.
    It’s so easy to put things we would love to do off until ‘we have time’ or ‘until we have money’ or….we are great at creating excuses for ourselves for not really taking control and responsibility for our lives.
    So I would like to add to your Toss and listen:
    Toss: limiting beliefs, things that stop us from doing things we love (we all have these beliefs: ‘I’m too old for…’ , ‘I don’t know how to….’).
    Listen: you can do anything you set your mind to do so! Surround yourself with inspiring people that will give you that extra ‘push’ and support when you need it. Do what your passionate about! Don’t wait untill your kids have left to do so! I believe it’s an example for kids to see parents (mothers!) doing more than just taking care of them 🙂
    Looking forward to your next post!


    • Masha danki, Valery! You are indeed on the group that has as many years behind you as you have ahead of you…just look at your Grandmother! I so appreciate your words because they are so true. There are women out there ready to take this step, they only need a bit of encouragement. I am going to try my hardest to provide it. Check the other posts and let me know…..xx

  2. Mercedes,
    Inspirational reading. Will look out for progress. Thanks.
    We might not have another 50 or 60 years, but we could have another 30. And if we think of all that we did and learned to do from birth up 30 like, walk, talk, graduate, a career or two, marriage, kids ect. I think we could do plenty in these years to come. Lets do it!

  3. Hi dear Mercedes,
    With a wonderful, very humoristic and full of self knowledge, written blog did you posted. I laughed often while reading….
    I exactly did the same in turning slowly into blonde! And I feel the temptation to go to the “final” stage of letting nature take over! But……….I do not have the guts so far…!
    Your lovely blog will keep me busy I think.

    Bye, brave woman, lotsoflove and I will follow your blog, hug from Nicoline.

    • Thanks, Nicoline! I am so pleased that you enjoyed the blog so far. Now, about being brave….I don’t know. It’s just something I needed to do. We will see how it develops, but it feels right. Hugs…

      • Love it Mercedes! I’ve thought about a blog several times in the last year, but there always seems like there somthing in the way: courage, the need to be employed… As you know, the last three years have been life-changing. I accept this but now would like the life changes to be positive, perhaps even joyous. Again there’s the courage thing. And the “I don’t know how to move forward,” as well as the “I don’t know what I want.” And always the finance thing–just don’t know how to get around that.
        I have a friend/therapist who has a website call “a beautiful mess inside.” You might take a look sometime.

        • Thanks, Rita! I understand your dilemma, but I also know we have to move forward and finally, please ourselves. Trust me, you can do this. It is easier than ever to start a blog, a website, a FB page and it’s very rewarding. Go for it!!! I will certainly check your friend’s website.

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