Let’s talk about one of the great truths in life: we are the best company. Of course, we are! Unfortunately, women tend to forget this and proceed to be always surrounded by friends, family, co-workers. There is time in our lives for each and everyone of them, but not all the time! Spending time with ourselves will make us more receptive to everyone around us. Believe me!
We feel guilty because we are relaxing or feel uncomfortable because we changed plans. We stress because we don’t finish everything in our to-do list! Women think of everyone else before themselves or say yes when they mean no. More upsetting: we feel uncomfortable with what we have accomplished. It is time to toss that, don’t you think? It is not going to be easy, but the time has come. I think this is a good start: we need to spend time with ourselves.
This brings us to the need for a quiet place, where we can let our imagination run free and where we have control. A place to call our own – room, bed, chair, balcony, garden – anything, really will do. Read, paint, write, listen to music…what we do is our choice, our pleasure. This need is universal and is essential for our well being. It’s taken me a while to realize this, but I am fully aware now.
The realization came slowly, but was welcome. Living in a condo affords less privacy than living in a home. So, from the beginning, it was important to define spaces. Can’t say it was a plan or that it was clear what I was doing. One thing for sure, it felt great! As time has passed, I have realized what a great idea this is. Spending time with myself ( observe that I don’t say by myself ) is now a very important part of my life and it’s about time!!
There is a difference between the two. When we take time for ourselves to pursue what we like, our passions, to do things we enjoy, to relax or to do nothing at all: we are spending time with ourselves. When we are alone and do things we need to do, like housework, we are spending time by ourselves. The first kind makes us feel happier, healthier, better. That is what we need to de-stress, to unwind. I’ve learned that taking time to spend with myself allows me to renew and to heal and gives me energy and peace.
Since I am home most of the day on my own, I have several quiet places. I can read in bed, sit on a comfortable chair watching television, have a glass of wine or tend my potted plants on the balcony. Alright, the glass of wine is mostly in the late afternoon when the park on my small island is full of children playing and the sunset has tinted the buildings a reddish hue. In the last couple of years, my quiet place has, more than once, saved my sanity. Listen and try it, you’ll see what I mean!!!