Lessons Learned and Yard Sales

Last weekend, my daughter organized a Spring Yard Sale. After spending weeks getting everything together, pricing, etc., we dropped all the goodies for sale at her cousin’s home on Friday. On Saturday, earlier than my usual wake up time, we left our apartment and headed to Vivi’s home.

She had already set up the tables, chairs and was waiting for us. Everything was unpacked and displayed. Water containers with lemon slices and plastic cups were set up in the shade……it promised to be a very hot day. People were already waiting to check out the stuff for sale.

I have to admit, garage or yard sales are not my thing. Staying out in the heat and sweating are completely against my better judgement, but this was important for Camille. What else could I do, but enjoy the adventure. I was also in charge of the money, sort of the banker. Big responsibility, but it allowed me to stay out of the sun and try to sell anything. Not very good at that and haggling is another trick I have not mastered.

So I took a large cup of lemon water, put my chair in the shade and observed the girls in action. Soon, they were selling, haggling, taking money for me to give change. Camille was smooth and collected, very friendly. She talked about everything with the potential buyers, got to know a bit about them and tried to find out what she could sell them.

Many came already for some specific item, others browsed and looked things over. Those were the ones that bought more!!! Haggling, as I said, it’s not my strength and I cannot sell water to a thirsty man, but my daughter can do this with such ease. I was impressed.

Once we got back home on the Sunday, counted our profits and ready to give away what was left…..I reflected on what did I learned. We always learn wanting to or not. So here it is.

I learned that you must never underestimate the power of young women out on a mission. Never, ever think you can teach them, but not learn from them. It was something I am sure I have learned before, but after years of being a mother…..I have conveniently forgotten.

I learned that a glass of lemon water in your hand can lead to conversation. Can start an exchange of ideas and can make you wonder why didn’t you think of that before.

I learned that sitting in the shade, under a canopy of trees, can offer more than comfort. It can attract others and soon laughter and chatter will surround you……you’ll be completely at easy with strangers.

I learned that no matter how much you think you know about something, there are people who would present you with another view, another twist to the story or another solution to a problem….and you just met them!!

I learned that age has nothing to do with anything and at the end of the day you have found so much in common with young women that could be your daughters. Just listen, watch their passion, it’s refreshing.

I learned that politics can be discuss in harmony, without offending anyone. There is not need for insults of any kind, there is a better way because we all are looking for the best for those we love.

I learned that I would do this again in a second because life is short and everything we enjoyed should be repeated.

Thank you, Camille, Vivi and Karina

 

Don’t Ignore the Small Things!!!

Getting to a certain age gives us a new perspective in life. Having lived more years than some of us want to admit, we look at everything through the eyes of experience. Others will say, we are just rediscovering everything, so we should behave accordingly. I have to agree with this.

Stop sometimes and look at children playing. Anything holds fascination, everything makes them laugh and nothing goes unnoticed. They go about the business of living with bright eyes and open hearts. I firmly believe we go back to this, but refuse to acknowledge the fact. Most of us think it is silly, for sure we should be serious and dignified……whatever that means. Well, I refuse to do that, not anymore.

Very few of my friends and family know I suffer from Rheumatoid Arthritis. Contrary to what the name implies, arthritis is the least of our problems, even if it is the most painful. This is an autoimmune disease that affects your whole body in many ways. I will not go into details, RA is not who I am, but you can read about it HERE.

As I have learned to cope and accept this new reality in my life, I have decided to be aware of every little pleasure that comes my way. I am taking time to stop and enjoy what makes me happy and what brings me joy. I have stopped getting involved in arguments and have stopped trying to change anyone’s mind on anything. I still have strong opinions about a lot of things, but I have decided I am not going to change anyone’s mind. So why argue?What I can do is nurture the other things I have in common with people I care for and love.

First of all, I am grateful for all I have and for the people in my life. I keep in touch with friends and family, even if they are some times too busy with their lives to reach back out to me. I avoid anyone with a negative outlook or a grudge, even if I truly care for them. There is no need to get into discussions about things we cannot change, not in the near future. Arguments only bring bad feelings and who needs that.

I go out and look around in wonder, I laugh any chance I get, I tend my orchids and rejoice in the fact that I am able to get them flowering. I take walks, I enjoy my family and spend as much time as I can with them. I am reading every book I get my hands on, I am decluttering my home until I have only what gives me pleasure and makes me comfortable. I have even started to enjoy shopping!!! I try to find ways of helping others, be it donating to charities or keeping in touch with people I know are lonely. Life is not easy for many, trying to help, helps me.

Nowadays, I watch less television, read less news, smile at strangers and love it when they smile back. I give myself a break or a nap when needed. There are some difficult things I’ve still to overcome: stop before I am going to snap at someone, try being considerate and non judgmental, ignore rude comments made by people close to me, feeling I have the right to correct someone…….It is a work in progress!!!

As I often say, we have more years behind us than in front, I have no intentions of squandering the small things that bring me joy. I try, not always successful I must admit, not to get involved in other people’s lives, not to care about what others do or have. Each one of us will do and say living our lives as we feel. The only thing I would say is: give this a try!!!

P.S. The inquisitive toddler is Anaaira, my friend Seema’s adorable granddaughter. Thank you for letting me use her picture!!! The other photos are mine: a cobbled  sidewalk in the Grove, the view from my balcony, a small brook at Fairchild Botanical Gardens and my orchids in bloom.