Things are coming together. I can feel the parts of this puzzle moving and adjusting. It is really looking very cohesive. Slowly, everything is falling into place. Have to say, I have had my moments of doubt and my moments of great stress. Restless nights and busy days trying to accommodate everything that needs doing into my schedule.
Fortunately my daughter and her fiancé are very much involved and have taken a lot upon themselves. After all, it’s their wedding, their moment. They know what they want and how to get it. I am here to help, but not to decide. I hope that we are all still close when all is said and done!!! Just kidding, but with hint of truth.
My friends, who have gone through this process, keep reminding me that all will be fine. Just breathe and relax, they tell me, the day will come and everything will be gorgeous. I know it will be, it’s the getting there that tends to be a bit rocky.
We certainly need instructions on how to handle these days. We need a how to book, a manual on how to talk to each other, how to make decisions without arguing and how to remember this is just the process, not the end result. I do not know if the book has been written, but I am absolutely sure it’s a great idea.
In the emotion of the moment, in the planning for the perfect wedding there is something that gets lost. It happens with every wedding. We forget that this is an event, a celebration, a coming together. This is not the final destination of this relationship. This is just the beginning, we are celebrating the start of the journey. It is so important to keep that in mind at all times.
Again, I am listening to friends and family who have planned weddings. They all agree that everything turned more relaxed, more fun when they realized this simple fact. One told me that we must remember the wedding is the send-off, we must make it happy and enjoyable and we must make sure we are not looking at the event instead of looking at the road ahead. I liked that.
In the meantime, I am keeping notes in a special notebook. It helps me stay grounded and lets me see how far we have come. It also keeps me sane when I feel there is too much on my plate. This might be the basis for that realistic how to book I am sure we all need to help us navigate the process with ease and grace. Or maybe it would just serve for me to read it back later on and remember with fondness this wonderful time.
Looking forward to more planning because this is such a special moment in our lives. Here it is to giving Camille and Oliver the wedding of their dreams!!!