Age and Death

This is not an easy topic to tackle. Most of us want nothing to do with talking about death. Somehow thinking that if it is ignored, it would not affect us. I am not criticizing or mocking. Everyone deals with issues in their own way, but since this is inevitable…….we must talk about it.

Death happens at any age, that is true, but at our age we are bound to have more encounters with it. Nothing morbid about it, it is just reality. Friends and family are also growing in age and it happens. Life is terminal, someone said once, and she was right.

This week has been very difficult for me. One of my oldest and dearest friends is in her final days. It has been coming for a while, but is no less painful. Seeing a loved one deteriorate slowly, trying to keep communication open without touching on the inevitable is very hard. She knows, I know….but how to approach the subject. How to say goodbye? How to talk about memories and shared experiences without breaking down? How to be there when you are so far away?

I have tried to make it light, to bring up the best times we shared, to recall the times we laughed and dreamed. Still not easy, I do not have the answer and cannot impart wisdom, sorry. All I know is that it needs to be done, you need to talk and reminisce and laugh. You need to remember the good and the bad and cry if you feel like it. Do not hold back and pretend all is well.

Sometimes you feel you have not said everything, that you forgot something that is very important. You struggle to remember everything, but what is happening takes over your brain and your heart and you cannot. Still, do it, talk and laugh and cry, your loved one knows better than you what is coming and have accepted it. Do not make their parting difficult. Let go……

Let GO of everything that makes you sad and mad, everything you perceive as unfair. Cry, scream, yell. Blame the Universe, God or whoever……they can all take it, trust me. It is not the magic pill for grief, but it is healthy and necessary.

When everything is over, take stock of your life again. Make yourself a promise to live to the max, to enjoy everything that comes your way and to be grateful for the time you still have and for everything and everyone you have in your life. Dry your tears and look forward. There are still dreams to bring to fruition and memories to make and share.

Busyness or Effectiveness

Do you feel you are always busy? Running errands or trying to get things done around the house? You are not alone, most of us feel this way. We thought that with age, the children gone, retirement and more time on your hands, we would dedicate ourselves to things we enjoy. We have discovered that busyness and efficiency are definitely not the same. Go to the dictionary and see for yourself!!!

Busyness is the state or condition of having a great deal to do. Effectiveness is the degree to which something is successful in producing a desired result. As you can see……we are talking apples and oranges. I, for one, want to be able to keep my house in order, have time for myself, get the time to go and see friends, read a book, walk with my husband, travel. How to accomplish all this? Seems like I am wishing for a lot. Well, not really!!!

First things, first…we must understand that being busy means filling your time with tasks. We say we are multitasking. I have news for you; all you are doing is working without a plan. We must focus on a single task to do it right and succeed.

Busy people fill their time with different tasks when what they should do is figure out how to spend less time getting things done. They think doing and accomplishing is the same thing. Unfortunately it is not. To succeed we must choose the most direct path to accomplish by doing less. Sounds confusing, but it is not…try it!!!

Focusing on action is not the same as focusing on clarity, we must be clear about what are we looking to accomplish. Be selective how you use your time and your resources…not easy but it is important to follow.

Set your priorities and do not get lost in details. Always try to see the big picture and focus in attaining the results you want. Keep track of your goals, revise them and do the important things first.

Once you realize that working smart is better than working hard, you will be effective….not only busy!!!

Age and Water

As I said about food, water is indispensable. Our bodies crave it, need it and cannot function without it. The human body uses water in all its cells and tissues. It is the way to regulate temperature and maintain bodily functions. It helps flush out toxins and boots your metabolism. Naturally, the body also loses water constantly: breathing, sweating, tearing, digesting food.

In this time and age, most drinks are full of sugar or we add sugar to them. Besides, we take it upon ourselves to add sugar to our tea, coffee, smoothie or whatever we drink.Water is just plain and simple. That is why we must concentrate on intaking as much as we need.

As we age, our sense of thirst lessens and we forget to hydrate. We must make it a point to drink even if we are not thirsty. Dehydration can cause many problems to an aging body, from rapid heartbeat to headaches. Reading about all this, made me realize that water is my best friend!!!

Slowly, I have been drinking more and more water. I still take my tea with honey and the occasional drink, but definitely more conscious of drinking plain water. How much? Eight glasses or a liter? that is a matter of whom do you talk to. For me, I drink whenever I can, regardless if I feel thirsty or not. To help myself, I keep a bottle of water with fruits in the fridge. Delicious!!!

A glass of water first thing in the morning fires up your metabolism and gives your brain some fuel. I take mine with some raw apple cider vinegar and at room temperature. It wakes me up!!! Then fruits or a smoothie and I am ready to face the day.

Last, but not least, there is sparkling water. Be it natural or man-made, carbonated water helps in so many ways. With your food, it makes you feel full, thus you might eat less; some studies say it helps with inflammation and with high cholesterol and blood sugar. These studies are not complete, but still it wouldn’t hurt to follow the advice. Besides, it is refreshing and a better idea than sodas.

Food is essential and water is too. By deciding to eat healthy and drink mostly water, you are helping yourself stay and feel optimally.