Out the Window

Since I can remember, I’ve had a fancy for windows. No idea where it comes from, maybe from that old adage that says: “when a door closes, a window opens”. It’s a symbol of hope, I guess. There is an alternative, an escape route, a way out. It’s comforting.

Throughout the years I have looked at windows every where I go, some times I take pictures, comment on them. There are such beautiful examples of them and very few pay attention. I do and will continue to do so. Here are some observations and some conclusions about this rambling.

On any given day, we are all presented with small and big crises. They come at us and there is no way to step aside, we must face them and deal with them. How we do it depends on our mood, our personality, our circumstances. Each one of us, in our own way, get past them. That is as it should be.

Now, there are times when we are so overwhelmed that we just cannot handle them. Then is when the window comes in handy. Yes, the window. Not always another way out, but a way to rid ourselves of whatever is keeping us from acting, from making a decision, from moving forward.

What I am saying is: throw all those doubts, all those conflicting feelings, all those negative thoughts out the window!!! Gather your strength and just do it. It is the only way some times and the feeling after doing it is unbelievable. Liberation, lightness, an absolute realization that starting again with a different perspective is the way to go. OUT THE WINDOW, it is!!!

Letting Go of Perfect

Amongst our most irrational beliefs we can count the idea that perfection exists. Few of us actually come out and say it, but we brag about our perfect children, our perfect husband, our perfect relationship. Everything is just perfect: our vacation, our health, even our lives in some cases. We must be thinking about it, constantly.

Where does this come from? How did we end up thinking this way? Haven’t found the root of it, but my hunch is that we got it through our upbringing, our friendly competition growing up, the fact we rather present a polished image of ourselves, maybe pretending all is well, good is easier than explaining anything. Who knows? and in the end, it really doesn’t matter. We must just let go. It only bring us stress and anxiety because we are following a path that leads nowhere!!!

To be truthful, more times than not, I struggle with this. In society, we overuse the word. We tell our friends that the time they have chosen to meet is perfect, we tell our children that the painting they brought from school is perfect, we even say that the weather is perfect.

So look into the richness of the language, use other words, other adjectives to characterize whatever it is you are talking about. I have taken out my Thesaurus….yes, that antiquated reference book nobody looks at anymore. It tells me these words can be used instead of perfect: faultless, spotless, immaculate, impeccable, sound, intact and exquisite among others.

In my personal crusade of de-cluttering and downsizing, letting go of perfect plays an important part. Striving for excellence is more realistic, I think. The same Thesaurus tells me: merit, greatness, distinction and brilliance. Of course, we must not take it to the extreme because we will fall again into the quest for perfection we are trying to shed

Finally, let’s remember that perfection can be an instant in someone’s life. Remember Nadia Comaneci in the 1976 Olympics? She got a perfect 10 score. That was a perfect moment, but it was hard and not easy to repeat. On the other hand, we all can maintain excellence throughout our lives by working hard, believing in ourselves, focusing our efforts, learning from those around us.