Why Not? It’s our time…..

 “Tis the Season, the season to consider the rest of our lives. It might not be the traditional Christmas giving, but it is something we must give ourselves. We have been daughters, wives, mothers, friends, lovers, caregivers. We have done everything required of us and more. We have put our dreams and our goals on hold for family and friends, husbands and lovers, aging parents and demanding children. What have we got in return? Well, some would say we have the satisfaction of having done our duty. Or we would feel at peace with ourselves.
 All that is good and personally rewarding, but don’t you feel sometimes we deserve better? don’t you feel we have the right to expect some palpable recognition? I do!!! Sorry, but we are human and there is nothing wrong with that. I am not going to get it from others, I will make my reward, my own Christmas present. Personal and wonderful and we deserve it.
From now on, let’s be realistic. Accept that we have more years behind you that we have in front of you. Unless there is a medical development I do not know of, we are not going to live another 50 or 60 years! Then, we have to put our foot down…we will live the rest of our lives as we want. It will be marvelous!!! Do what you always wanted to do. What a gift that would be……and why not?
Go places you always wanted to visit, even if it is the museum in the next town…….travel farther if it is possible. Remember when you wanted to take a cruise or walk at night along the Seine, or spend time in a Tuscan town, an English village or a Caribbean beach? Well, do it… why not?
Are you interested in painting, photography or pottery making? Do you think you want to explore your artistic side? Go for it! There are classes and groups and clubs that encourage all those things, right there in your city or town….why not?
Do you keep journals? why not publish your memoirs? We all have something to say, share  your experiences.  Do you think you can tell a story? or have you been told you are a storyteller? why not put that in writing? It is so easy today to get your work on the internet. I wrote a book and started a blog at an age when others are thinking of retiring. So, why not?
Have you been called the life of the party? do your friends laugh out loud at your witty comments? Start a blog, share your wit and your humor. Remember, laughter is the best medicine and is side-effect free! Gather your thoughts and start writing! People love to be entertained. So, why not?
Do you love to cook or have a knack for organizing events? are your parties always well attended because nobody wants to miss them? Do your friends ask you for advise when buying clothes? Do you get compliments about your garden or your home? Then consider doing this….a hobby that can bring an income! Besides, if you love it, you’ll be great at it. So, why not?
Most women my age have retired or their husbands have, they have no children at home…..at least not the ones that need care….they know themselves well, they know what they like and what they want. What they need is the will to do just that….and why not?
Now, whatever you decide to do, do with flair, with passion. These are the best years of our lives because the only person you have to please now is you. It is Christmas after all, give yourself the best present:  Go out and get the most out of the rest of your life!!! WHY NOT?
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Gifts to Give Yourself: #4

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Barb has posted her last gift to herself. This, she says, is the hardest one to work with. She is so right. In these uncertain times, when we are bombarded by horrible news, tragedies and acts of inhumanity, we feel dispirited and holding on to this gift is difficult. Still, if we do, we are certain to come up with another way, another solution, a better day. I am sure you can guess that this last gift is The Gift of Hope.

The world is not the perfect place we want it to be, but that doesn’t mean we should give up on it. Let’s hope for something better, and then act upon it. Hope that turns into action can accomplish anything. Everyday we should look forward to tomorrow with the certainty that we can make it better than today. There is always a new job, a new move, a new relationship, a new chapter in our lives and we must hope they’d turn out for the best. Let’s hope that we can heal emotional wounds and broken hearts. Let ‘s hope  that we can make this a better place for our loved ones.

There is nothing we cannot do if we have hope in another day or in another chance. “Hope makes all things work…”, a very wise quote by my friend Brenda. Because it’s so true, let’s give ourselves The Give of Hope.

Wishing you a Happy Holiday Season: a Season to write your story, a Season to understand your fear, a Season of giving of yourselves and a Season of hope!!!

Gifts to give Yourself: #1 and #2

http://www.dreamstime.com/royalty-free-stock-photo-christmas-gifts-front-lights-image7511835I belong to an online group of women over 50. I can see you smiling….I am over 60 actually, but who is counting. This is one of my favorite sites: a community of older women that can really express themselves, give advice, conjure smiles, tears, laughs, serious thoughts. For a while now, I have followed Barb Parcells. She writes a blog under the screen name: Flower Bear.

Her posts are always a delight to read. Her blog is relaxing, with soft colors, flowers. It is her garden because she is planting the seeds for the second half of life. Doesn’t that sound inspiring?

During this Christmas Season, she has decided to give herself four gifts that speak to “her true, beautiful self”. One gift every week leading to Christmas Day. I discovered this just now and was absolutely taken by the idea.

This I am going to do for myself, following her direction. I am sharing the idea, why don’t you join me? Her ideas might not be exactly what you would do for yourself, but I am certain they will speak to you once you read the reason behind each one.

The first week, she is giving herself The Gift of Story. I love it!!! I keep journals, so this one should be good for me. I am going to go through my writings and I will write my story, happy ending and all!!!. Why and how you ask? very simple: I am writing about the experiences that touched me, the special moments that made me smile, the words of wisdom that helped my loved ones. Sounds like an adventure, can’t wait.

On this second week of December, she is giving herself The Gift of Fear. I have to say, this sounded a bit odd. As I continued reading, it became clear: “danger is the warning…… Fear, on the other hand, is a choice”. That was a revelation. Barb lets us know that if we fear something it’s because we are missing something in our lives. We are not living in the present moment, the past should just be left behind. Beautiful thoughts.

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P.S. visit her blog, it’s worth it!!!