Dress like you’re having Fun!!! (Part One)

IMG_4001No, I don’t wear that, it’s too young-looking for me, I don’t know about bright colors at my age, no sleeveless anything, too short, too much cleavage, too fitted, too loose, no bikinis, no shorts and let’s forget about form-fitting clothes……”  Who makes these rules? and why do women feel obliged to follow them? Judith Boyd, whose blog Style Crone is one of my favorites, says that “we should know the rules, so we can break them“……I like that. Patti Gibbons from Not Dead yet Style, it’s also an inspiration. She advises us “to burst out with a love for fashion and style“….Couldn’t agree more!!!

When we were young, we could wear anything and be called original,  innovative, unique. Nowadays we are called old-fashioned, out-of-touch with the times and who knows what else. Well, I am not going to be bothered by any of that. I have come to the conclusion that women of a certain age have been held back long enough. We do not have to listen and still look fabulous!!!IMG_4009

IMG_3996Do you remember when our mothers decided what we wore? I am one of three sisters. For years, our mother dressed us alike, different colors, a bow here, a belt there, but basically the same dress. Oh, we thought nothing of it for years. Did you wear a hat on Easter Sunday? My sisters and I wore ours on Palm Sunday. Mothers knew best and we had no saying in our outfits. Those days were gone as soon as we hit middle school, remember?. Our personalities took over to a point. We had some freedom, but still not complete control.

FullSizeRenderHigh school was a lot freer and more fun. We discovered that our clothes could say a lot about us. It was an epiphany, especially where I grew up. I had my hair styled as Twiggy’s famous do, wore huge white sunglasses, plastic bangles and earrings, false eyelashes and much more. It was so much fun. Remembering that, I realize that I once was one of those young women that were considered unique and original…….if not a bit off in my circle of friends.

Never mind when I came to the States for college, it was the 60s after all. Boston was home to students from around the globe, bringing with them so many interesting things to wear. So, I learned to wear what I liked, took risks with my clothes, wore the shortest skirts, knee-high boots with hot-pants……you name it, I wore it!!!

IMG_4002Then I grew up, got married, started a family, became more conventional, but only to a point.  I’ve always loved being myself, not always expecting anyone to like my style. Unfortunately, I started to get too comfortable. Our bodies change, mine did and somehow, I thought I should conform with rules. What was I thinking? Why was I listening to outside influences when I never cared about them? Still, it did happened. Now, I am back to my old self………and I am having fun again!!! I will tell you all about it soon. Stay tuned……for Part Two!!!IMG_0809

Going Back……Looking Forward

Just came back from visiting Panamá. It seems I am always there and seldom do I do something that makes my stay memorable. I visit my mother, I keep things running, I try to read as much as I can, I relax when not running errands. Not much, but all of it necessary.

IMG_2553This time, I did have something to look forward to while I was doing all this. Once I return to the city, I was going to see some of my high school friends. I haven’t seen some of them since we graduated. The thought kept me going and made me smile when I felt harassed and stressed getting things done. Anabella, though, could not attend so I got together with her while still visiting my mother. We had a lovely time!!!

The day finally came. I drove back to the city and went out for drinks with my sister. My relaxing time had started. Despite the many reports of high crime and robberies at night, we had a wonderful time at a new wine and tapas bar: JALEO. It was full and everyone seemed relaxed and having fun.

After a good night sleep, I awoke full of energy and ready to meet my friends. Getting ready took a short time, I always wear comfortable clothes when in Panamá….it is too hot for fussy dressing. My hair was a snap to style and I was once again grateful for my new look!!! Ran a couple of errands with my sister and went to the restaurant.

We met at LUNA a restaurant that belongs to one of my friends’ husband. Its sleek decor is soothing and chic. Coming in, I noticed they have seated us in a special room, with a big table, comfortable chairs and encased in glass. Perfect setting for our reunion: a fish bowl with privacy. Good going, Damaris!!

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Jeanette, Irma, Alida, Ada, Leyda and Lourdes were already there. Isabel, Ambar, Irene, Damaris and Montserrat joined us one by one. How wonderful to see everyone!!! Was so pleased to feel welcome as if have never stopped seeing each other. It was as if we have always been in touch.

Talk started about what have I been doing all these years, what have they been up to, catching up. Children, grandchildren, new and old relationships and current activities. Slowly, we moved to the past: school days, boyfriends, guys we all liked because they were just too cute, teachers, nuns……yes, I attended an all-girl Catholic school. There were only 30 girls in my graduating class.Twelve were there.

Those were the days: uniforms, so no competition in what we wore, no make-up and no high-style hairdo. Well, we did have Lupita, who managed to look glamorous in uniform. Nowadays, everyone looks fantastic and it seems they don’t age!!! My grey hair was a surprise…more or less. Even if they complimented me, they assured me they would never do it, forget it!!! That is fine, I am not looking into converting anyone to my way of thinking. One of them remembered that last time she saw me I was sporting a blondish Twiggy haircut. She said it was fitting that today I am sporting something similar. How very nice of her!!!

The food was delicious, the wine was just the thing and the company was perfect. We talked and shared and laughed for a better part of four hours. Amazing!!! It was going back and looking forward, reminiscing about our past lives and planning to keep in touch in our new ones. When we said goodbye, I felt a bit sad, but have to say: I am looking forward to these mini-reunions. There is so much for us to still do and enjoy and we need the time to share it all. Thank you, girls!!!

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